God Is Not Sexual

Those, who by stalking or worse, force themselves on people, are not acting in divine love. True love respects the boundaries a person sets, even when their limits crush the lover’s heart. Unlike most humans, God is utterly trustworthy. The fruit of the Spirit (the very essence of who God is) is “love . . . self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23).

Logically, if the all-powerful Lord were an abuser, keeping our distance from him would be no protection. Like no one else, however, the Almighty is worthy of infinite power because he will never abuse that power, but will use it for your good.

One of the ways in which our Lord differs from us, however, is that he is not sexual. Taking this to heart is especially important for people who suffered as children to the point where even the word love is distressing because perverts repeatedly used the word when they meant not love but sexual violation.

Jesus strongly disapproved of lust:

    Matthew 5:27-29 You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery;’ but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one of your members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna.

Remember that it was not in our sex-obsessed society that Jesus declared lust to be as depraved as adultery. He was speaking to people who regarded adultery as such a heinous crime that it incurred the death penalty (John 8:3-5).

Jesus was no hypocrite. Indeed, he alone has never sinned:

    John 8:46 Which of you convicts me of sin? . . .

    2 Corinthians 5:21 For him who knew no sin [Jesus] he made to be sin on our behalf; so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

    Hebrews 7:26 For such a high priest [Jesus] was fitting for us: holy, guiltless, undefiled, separated from sinners . . .

    1 Peter 1:19  . . . as of a faultless and pure lamb, the blood of Christ

    1 Peter 2:22 who did not sin, “neither was deceit found in his mouth.”

    1 John 3:5 You know that he was revealed to take away our sins, and in him is no sin.

The holy Son of God has never lusted. The Son of God is as sexually innocent as a newborn. Moreover, in heaven, where he is now enthroned, there is no sex.

Even for humans who are currently very sexual, their sex drive is temporary. It slowly rises from nothing as a baby to intense in their late teens and early twenties and then gradually fades until it completely disappears in the next life.

    Mark 12:25 For when they will rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.

It is there, in that place where there is no sex, that the bodies of all deemed worthy of heaven will be like that of the eternal Son of God:

    1 Corinthians 15:42-44 So also is the resurrection of the dead. . . . It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual body. . . .

    1 Corinthians 15:49 And just as we have borne the likeness of the earthly man, so shall we bear the likeness of the man from heaven. (NIV)

    Philippians 3:20-21 For our citizenship is in heaven, from where we also wait for a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ; who will change the body of our humiliation to be conformed to the body of his glory . . .

    1 John 3:2 . . . when he is revealed, we will be like him; for we will see him just as he is.

One of the similarities between the bodies of people in heaven and that of our risen Lord is lack of sex drive. He has no sexual feelings.

As implied elsewhere in this series of webpages, an accurate intellectual understanding of God’s love will not magically change our emotional reaction. It’s an important starting point, however, from which one can start confidently pushing closer to God despite groundless but unpleasant feelings. In addition, one needs healing from past wounds, and I have devoted very many pages to this (see Healing from Sexual Abuse). Healing is facilitated, however, by becoming convinced of the purity of God’s motives and by drawing as close to God as we can.

Related Page: Is God Male or Female? God’s Gender



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