The whole concept of resolving problems by talking about them is far more a feminine approach than a masculine one. Almost everything about counseling is more suited to women than to men. As such, it is strongly biased against men, just as it would be unfair to expect women to agree to settling marital differences by arm wrestling.
If it is cruel to expect a man prove his love by demanding he go to work in high heels and lipstick like a woman, then it is an act of cruelty or ignorance to expect him to prove his love by solving marital problems like a woman by him submitting to marital counseling. Most wives regard male resistance to counseling as pig-headed stubbornness and callous indifference to their wivesí needs. This feminine perception, however, is frequently just as much a reflection of a wifeís inability to understand men, as her husbandís need for marriage counseling is, in part, the product of his inability to understand women.
Nevertheless, if you have read everything you can and tried everything you can think of, and the problem still threatens your marriage, marital counseling might be the only option. So how can you persuade your husband to see a marriage counselor?
I have written a webpage to help motivate men either to undergo marital counseling, or to change so much that their wives become convinced that all need for counseling has vanished. Have a look at the webpage and see how it might help you. You might decide to give your husband the web address of the page, or print the page for him, or read it to him, or get ideas from it to share with him.
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